Scenario A.
You say: “How are you?”
Your friend is smiling and bouncy, and says: “I’m fine.”
Do you believe them?
Scenario B.
You say: “How are you?”
Your friend is quiet with shoulders hunched, and says: “I’m fine.”
Do you believe them?
Choosing the right communication channels
You might have heard of the Mehrabian Myth – it’s been widely quoted that only 7% of communication comes from the words we use, with 38% from tone of voice and 55% from body language. The research actually applied only to incongruent communication – that is when words, voice and behaviours do not match (as in scenario B). The theory has been extrapolated to refer to all communication, but it’s not true.
That’s so important that I’ll repeat it.
IT’S NOT TRUE!
In most cases, words are much more important than 7% (although, as a copywriter, I probably would say that, wouldn’t I).
You can achieve successful communication with just words – especially if you’ve already built a relationship face-to-face or over the phone first.
Imagine attending a training course in person compared with listening in to a conference call or just reading the manual. You’ll learn more face-to-face than over the phone, and more over the phone than by just reading the words.
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